By Tatyanna Hunter
Most college students would agree that long-distance relationships are challenging, but the relationship can work if the couple wants it to.
There are numerous ways to help make long-distance relationships successful. One way is by talking to your significant other every day.
Whether it’s by Skype, on the phone, or texting, communication in long-distance relationships is vital. Couples should talk every day because it will help them remain involved in their partner’s life, without being in the same location.
If a couple talks every day, they can talk about what happened at work, some new renovations to their home, or about their children or pets. The couple is not together, but sharing details about their daily activities, helps the couple keep up to date with what their significant other is doing.
Another way to help make long-distance relationships work is by doing activities simultaneously while you two are apart.
For example, my boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship and at night we watch the same shows together. Since we watch the same show, at the same time, it makes us feel connected.
Being optimistic is another important tip to remember when in a long-distance relationship. The relationship will not work if you don’t have faith that it will work.
Staying positive and focusing on the future you and your significant other will have together will help make the distance not seem problematic.
Make sure to visit each other as much as possible when you are in a long-distance relationship. Visiting at least once a month or every other week will keep the couple’s bond strong and show that you still love spending time with your significant other.
A method I use in my long-distance relationship is giving gifts. By giving gifts I mean that each partner should give each other gifts, so that the other partner will have a little reminder of your love.
My boyfriend bought me a stuffed panda and every time I move from Hood to my home, I bring it with me. The gift could be anything from a poem, keychain, ring, or even a pen.
As long as the gift comes from the heart, it will be appreciated.
Sometimes it may be hard to make time for your significant other if you are a busy person. Set aside some time each day specifically for your significant other and at that time give them your undivided attention.
After those set hours are done, then you can go back to your busy lifestyle. The important factor is letting your partner know that you are busy, you will do all you can to make time when you both can talk.
Trusting that your significant other will be faithful is an excellent way to ensure that your long-distance relationship will be successful. If every day you are worrying that your boyfriend might cheat on you, then the relationship is bound to fail.
As long as you are being faithful and doing all you can to keep the relationship strong, you shouldn’t have to worry about anything.
I asked a few Hood students for their opinion on long-distance relationships. I tried to get an array of answers, so I asked students who are single and some who are in relationships.
Endria Stanley, senior, has been in a relationship for six years. Her boyfriend lives in Baltimore while she attends Hood, but she doesn’t really consider her relationship to be long-distance because she visits often.
One piece of advice she said she would give is to “let them have a life outside of your relationship.”
By that she means giving your significant other some space. Everybody needs alone time sometimes.
Ashley Abrew, a senior, is currently single. She has been in many relationships in the past, but none of them were long-distance ones.
She believes that long-distance relationships can work, but it depends on the circumstances.
Abrew said, circumstances such as, “how long you’ve been together, how deep your connection is, how dedicated you are, and how committed you are to each other.”
Jose Galarza, a sophomore, is currently single and has never been in a relationship.
When asked about long-distance relationships, Galarza said “I think it’s tough because you don’t really have a lot of interactions every day. There’s a lot less intimacy.”
Having less intimacy is true and a challenging factor for couples in long-distance relationships, but Galarza agreed that couples can make it work if they try.
Ha Eun Sohn, an exchange student from South Korea, is a junior and has been in a relationship for seven months. Right now she is in an extremely long-distance relationship because her boyfriend is in South Korea.
Sohn’s advice was to “contact each other often.”
“Skype is the best because you can see and hear, if you can’t get on the phone or messenger, it is important to trust each other and believe each other.”
Overall, everyone agrees that being in a long-distance relationship is tough, but as long as the couple follow the steps mentioned and advice given, they will be successful.